No Life Lessons?

"Luke, you're going to find that many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view." -- Obi-Wan

"The only lesson in life is to learn to be pickier about what we think and feel." -Tamara Hanson 

Many of us believe that we are here to learn lessons in life. Typically, each negative thing that happens is a lesson that we feel we need to learn so we can evolve further. However, what about when something positive happens? Doesn’t that offer a lesson too?

While this may be true to a degree, I don’t think we each are randomly doled out a certain number of ‘lessons’. I don’t think when your name comes up, a wheel is spun and you get the health issues, or the financial issues, or the relationship issues.  Nor do I think that everything is a test where we are given a pass or a fail depending on how we react or what action we take.

Because we are the creators of our own experience, and each one of us is God/Source Energy/Higher Self (fill in the blank) expressed in physical form, we are the ones giving ourselves the experience.

“But, wait,” you might say, “Why would I create that crappy relationship, financial situation, or illness? Maybe I’m here to learn a lesson for some crappy karma from a past life in which I don’t remember nor have any control over it.”

You are not undoing any karma (see karma blog), and you have complete control over what you create by paying attention to how you think and how you feel.  Your emotions are guiding you; if you are feeling anything less than happy, joyful and loving, then you need to switch it up and reach for something that feels better. Nothing is more important than that you feel good… no matter what.

“But,” you might say, “I have all this crappy stuff happening in my life. How can I feel good when crappy stuff is happening? I should be worrying because, if I’m feeling happy, then I look irresponsible for not worrying about the crappy stuff. That’s what society taught me.” 

The crappy stuff that is happening right now is old news. The crappy stuff that has manifested into your life occurred because you offered up consistently sloppy thoughts and vibrations before it came into being your reality.

So, we become more proficient at thinking the good stuff and feeling the good stuff, no matter what our current reality is. Why? Because we now want something new to come in; we now want health, happiness, love, money, a job, etc.

There is a saying: 

I am sure there still is that underlying question of, “Well, did those starving kids in Africa/my city/my country, become sloppy thinkers too?” This is an off-shoot of the same topic and will cover that at a later date, which will most likely deal with co-creation.

The point is, the only lesson that we need to learn is to be pickier about what thoughts we think and the emotions we feel. We need to be less sloppy with our vibration and more deliberate with what we create. So, when something happens that is not what you wanted, the lesson is to change your thoughts and emotions to what you do want…and be consistent about it. 

Challenge yourself for 30 days by thinking and feeling only the positive, and then see what happens. 

You have nothing to lose. 



Fake It Till You Make It

Fake it till you make it! What does that mean. There is a lot of confusion surrounding this statement, and sometimes people get very uptight about it.

In my assessment, there are many interpretations depending on who you are, what you've read, and who you've spoken to.

Some think that it means just pretend you are the person you want to be and eventually you will become that person. All you need to do is forget everything that that isn't working in your life and pretend that everything is sunshine and lollipops. There may be a little truth in that, but, you certainly can't go around spending money you don't have because you are 'pretending' you are a millionaire. That's not how it works and this isn't what it means.

A little demonstration:

When I was younger, like 12 (I'd like to say it was 10 years ago, but it wasn't.), I would go to sleep by visualizing myself on The Love Boat. Sometimes I would be Julie McCoy, Cruise Director, and sometimes a passenger. This was a great way to fall asleep because it made me happy and I would have a peaceful sleep.

Seriously, I think we would all have excellent sleeps if we envisioned ourselves on a beach, a boat, a train...whatever, as long as we were having a relaxing time on our imaginary vacation.

So, what Fake It Till You Make It means is to visualize what you want. THINK and FEEL it... just like I did visualizing and feeling what it would be like on The Love Boat as Julie McCoy. This is how you create your life; this is the fake it part. This is the part where you go within and have fun, no matter what is happening. Although I didn't manifest being on The Love Boat (because that wasn't the point of the exercise when I was 12), what did manifest were peaceful sleeps. I remember waking up one morning and I felt awesome! I even looked like I had a restful sleep.

Once you are in your conscious state and moving through day to day life, you take that feeling wherever you go.  The point of life is to feel good!

Still unsure about this Fake It Till You Make It business? There have been studies demonstrating that thought and feeling will produce similar or close to similar results. For instance, studies show that when athletes visualize running and training for a race, their bodies go through the same processes as if they were physically doing it.

Why? Firstly, thoughts and emotion are energy. We are all just a bundle of energy! Secondly, your brain doesn't know what is real or what is imagination. When you throw feeling into the mix, you can tell your brain anything and it will believe you.

Therefore, tell it you are rotten and FEEL it....and it will believe you. Tell your brain you are wonderful, and FEEL it....and it will believe you. Whatever you tell it, it will believe you and create more for you. It is at your beck and call.

Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings! They are extremely powerful!